Teach on_exit_reset() to discard pending cleanups for dsm.

Teach on_exit_reset() to discard pending cleanups for dsm.

If a postmaster child invokes fork() and then calls on_exit_reset, that
should be sufficient to let it exit() without breaking anything, but
dynamic shared memory broke that by not updating on_exit_reset() to
discard callbacks registered with dynamic shared memory segments.

Per investigation of a complaint from Tom Lane.