Fix fallback behavior when server sends an ERROR early at startup

Fix fallback behavior when server sends an ERROR early at startup

With sslmode=prefer, the desired behavior is to completely fail the
connection attempt, *not* fall back to a plaintext connection, if the
server responds to the SSLRequest with an error ('E') response instead
of rejecting SSL with an 'N' response. This was broken in commit
05fd30c0e7.

Reported-by: Jacob Champion
Reviewed-by: Michael Paquier
Discussion: https://www.postgresql.org/message-id/CAOYmi%2Bnwvu21mJ4DYKUa98HdfM_KZJi7B1MhyXtnsyOO-PB6Ww%40mail.gmail.com
Backpatch-through: 17