Add palloc_extended for frontend and backend.

Add palloc_extended for frontend and backend.

This commit also adds pg_malloc_extended for frontend. These interfaces
can be used to control at a lower level memory allocation using an interface
similar to MemoryContextAllocExtended. For example, the callers can specify
MCXT_ALLOC_NO_OOM if they want to suppress the "out of memory" error while
allocating the memory and handle a NULL return value.

Michael Paquier, reviewed by me.