Fix data loss at inplace update after heap_update().

Fix data loss at inplace update after heap_update().

As previously-added tests demonstrated, heap_inplace_update() could
instead update an unrelated tuple of the same catalog.  It could lose
the update.  Losing relhasindex=t was a source of index corruption.
Inplace-updating commands like VACUUM will now wait for heap_update()
commands like GRANT TABLE and GRANT DATABASE.  That isn't ideal, but a
long-running GRANT already hurts VACUUM progress more just by keeping an
XID running.  The VACUUM will behave like a DELETE or UPDATE waiting for
the uncommitted change.

For implementation details, start at the systable_inplace_update_begin()
header comment and README.tuplock.  Back-patch to v12 (all supported
versions).  In back branches, retain a deprecated heap_inplace_update(),
for extensions.

Reported by Smolkin Grigory.  Reviewed by Nitin Motiani, (in earlier
versions) Heikki Linnakangas, and (in earlier versions) Alexander
Lakhin.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/CAMp+ueZQz3yDk7qg42hk6-9gxniYbp-=bG2mgqecErqR5gGGOA@mail.gmail.com