Add option PROCESS_TOAST to VACUUM

Add option PROCESS_TOAST to VACUUM

This option controls if toast tables associated with a relation are
vacuumed or not when running a manual VACUUM.  It was already possible
to trigger a manual VACUUM on a toast relation without processing its
main relation, but a manual vacuum on a main relation always forced a
vacuum on its toast table.  This is useful in scenarios where the level
of bloat or transaction age of the main and toast relations differs a
lot.

This option is an extension of the existing VACOPT_SKIPTOAST that was
used by autovacuum to control if toast relations should be skipped or
not.  This internal flag is renamed to VACOPT_PROCESS_TOAST for
consistency with the new option.

A new option switch, called --no-process-toast, is added to vacuumdb.

Author: Nathan Bossart
Reviewed-by: Kirk Jamison, Michael Paquier, Justin Pryzby
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/BA8951E9-1524-48C5-94AF-73B1F0D7857F@amazon.com