Fix handling of symlinked pg_stat_tmp and pg_replslot

Fix handling of symlinked pg_stat_tmp and pg_replslot

This was already fixed in HEAD as part of 6ad8ac60 but was not
backpatched.

Also change the way pg_xlog is handled to be the same as the other
directories.

Patch from me with pg_xlog addition from Michael Paquier, test updates
from David Steele.