Implement new 'lightweight lock manager' that's intermediate between

Implement new 'lightweight lock manager' that's intermediate between
existing lock manager and spinlocks: it understands exclusive vs shared
lock but has few other fancy features.  Replace most uses of spinlocks
with lightweight locks.  All remaining uses of spinlocks have very short
lock hold times (a few dozen instructions), so tweak spinlock backoff
code to work efficiently given this assumption.  All per my proposal on
pghackers 26-Sep-01.