shm_mq: Update mq_bytes_written less often.

shm_mq: Update mq_bytes_written less often.

Do not update shm_mq's mq_bytes_written until we have written
an amount of data greater than 1/4th of the ring size, unless
the caller of shm_mq_send(v) requests a flush at the end of
the message. This reduces the number of calls to SetLatch(),
and also the number of CPU cache misses, considerably, and thus
makes shm_mq significantly faster.

Dilip Kumar, reviewed by Zhihong Yu and Tomas Vondra. Some
minor cosmetic changes by me.

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