shm_mq: Fix detach race condition.

shm_mq: Fix detach race condition.

Commit 34db06ef9a1d7f36391c64293bf1e0ce44a33915 adopted a lock-free
design for shm_mq.c, but it introduced a race condition that could
lose messages.  When shm_mq_receive_bytes() detects that the other end
has detached, it must make sure that it has seen the final version of
mq_bytes_written, or it might miss a message sent before detaching.

Thomas Munro

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