Fix PANIC with track_functions due to concurrent drop of pgstats entries

Fix PANIC with track_functions due to concurrent drop of pgstats entries

pgstat_drop_entry_internal() generates an ERROR if facing a pgstats
entry already marked as dropped.  With a workload doing a lot of
concurrent CALL and DROP/CREATE PROCEDURE, it could be possible for
AtEOXact_PgStat_DroppedStats(), that wants to do transactional drops, to
find entries that are already dropped, after a commit record has been
written.  In this case, ERRORs are upgraded to PANIC, taking down the
server.

This issue is fixed by making pgstat_drop_entry() optionally more
tolerant to concurrent drops, adding to the routine a missing_ok option
to make some of its callers more tolerant (spoiler: some of the callers
want a strict behavior, like replication slots and backend stats).
pgstat_drop_entry_internal() cannot be called anymore for an entry
marked as dropped, hence its error is replaced by an assertion.
Functions are handled as a special case in core; this problem could also
apply to custom stats kinds depending on what an extension does.
track_functions is costly when enabled (disabled by default), which is
perhaps the main reason why this has not be found yet.

A similar version of this patch has been proposed by Sami Imseih on a
different thread for a feature in development.  This version has tweaked
here by me for the sake of fixing this issue.

Reported-by: zhanglihui <zlh21343@163.com>
Author: Sami Imseih <samimseih@gmail.com>
Author: Michael Paquier <michael@paquier.xyz>
Reviewed-by: Ayush Tiwari <ayushtiwari.slg01@gmail.com>
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/19520-73873648d44793cf@postgresql.org
Backpatch-through: 15