Add support TCP user timeout in libpq and the backend server

Add support TCP user timeout in libpq and the backend server

Similarly to the set of parameters for keepalive, a connection parameter
for libpq is added as well as a backend GUC, called tcp_user_timeout.

Increasing the TCP user timeout is useful to allow a connection to
survive extended periods without end-to-end connection, and decreasing
it allows application to fail faster.  By default, the parameter is 0,
which makes the connection use the system default, and follows a logic
close to the keepalive parameters in its handling.  When connecting
through a Unix-socket domain, the parameters have no effect.

Author: Ryohei Nagaura
Reviewed-by: Fabien Coelho, Robert Haas, Kyotaro Horiguchi, Kirk
Jamison, Mikalai Keida, Takayuki Tsunakawa, Andrei Yahorau
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/EDA4195584F5064680D8130B1CA91C45367328@G01JPEXMBYT04